What If We Change The Question?

Sep 24, 2021
Each morning this week, when I first woke up, my mind raced with everything I had to do in the day.

My 11-year old was home from school because of self-isolation. It was a full week of clients and onboarding a new team. And I am committed to contributing to my work in a deeper way.

I’m juggling a lot of things right now, and I’m sure you are too.

A few years ago, this would have led me to work evenings and weekends to keep up, be short on patience and presence, and the overwhelm and anxiety would be high.

Now, even while juggling it all, I feel calm and centered as I am able to bring my unhelpful thoughts back to the present moment, honor my boundaries, and focus on what really matters (and let go of the rest).

Many leaders like you are no longer willing to settle for feeling overwhelmed every day, sacrificing being present with your family or enjoying your...

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Sometimes You Don't Get It Right The First Time

Sep 21, 2021
September 16th marked 15 years that Kenton and I have been married. When I reflect on all these years together, my mind tends to wander to when it all started.
 
Marriage is funny – it's the one thing in your life that you are supposed to get right the first time.
 
Well, we didn’t.
 
When we met, we were both already married to great people who were not right for us.
In hindsight, I knew this in my heart before I ever said ‘I do’ the first time.
 
But I didn’t want to let anyone down. I didn’t want to hurt anyone.
 
I told myself that things would get better and oftentimes believed that they would. And I certainly didn’t have the courage to listen to that little voice inside my head that kept saying this isn't how it's supposed to be.
 
So, at the age of 24, I decided I would stay in it “forever”.
 
Then I met Kenton and everything changed.
 
The stakes became too high...
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Change Is Messy

Sep 13, 2021

With any change, one day you’ll feel like you are crushing it and that “you’ve got this”, and the next day it might seem like nothing is going right and you're wondering how you'll make it through the day.

You will have amazing days where you are fired up, energized and being the leader, parent and person you want to be.

And, you will have days where you feel overwhelmed, frustrated that nothing seems to be going right, and when you definitely aren’t showing up as your best self.

Especially now when our days are often turned upside down and people are already feeling on edge.

Change is messy. Not everything is supposed to go smoothly, so stop expecting it to. You have a choice to embrace it instead of fighting it.

Over the years, I’ve learned how to thrive even with all the demands and expectations (which is what I help others to do now).

Last week, I had a couple of the not-so-good days. This is a time of change getting back into the...

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Are You Feeling Like You Need a Reset?

Aug 06, 2021

For me, the month of July means summer vacation, enjoying time at the lake with family and friends, and taking a real break from the daily responsibilities and to-dos.

And, to reset and recalibrate from the past few months.

This summer though, I realized that I needed an even bigger reset than usual!

After a year of running my business and helping more than 300 busy professionals to step out of overworking, feel less overwhelmed and stressed, and be confident to lead and live aligned with their values.

Juggling that with my kids being in and out of school unexpectantly and the moral fatigue of constantly figuring out what was ok and not ok to do.

Being a coach, mom, teacher, wife, organizer, mediator, cheerleader, and more.

As I got to the middle of July, when I usually ramp up in business again, I realized I didn’t want to do ANY work  -- other than serve existing clients.

I longed for more downtime than usual and did not feel like forcing myself to do things.

I gave...

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Let Go Of An 'All or Nothing' Mentality

Jul 22, 2021

You might find yourself thinking a situation is black and white, right or wrong, or all or nothing.

I used to find myself often "all in" on this unhelpful mindset, such as . . 

  • I am completely confident in myself or doubt myself altogether.
  • I am right, and "they" are wrong.
  • I make huge strides or zero progress.
  • I will follow the process exactly, or I am doing it wrong.
  • I hit my goals, or I am a failure.
  • It has to be perfect or doesn't happen at all.

Sound familiar?

First off, it’s normal to fall into this thinking. You are not alone! These thoughts still pop up for me at times (it's just way less often now).

But this limiting mindset also leads to slower progress, overthinking, and unnecessary stress.

Instead, you can . . .

Feel confident in your abilities and challenge yourself to grow and learn new things (even if you aren't sure of yourself).

Know that there is no right or wrong way, especially with people. You have a perspective, and the other person has...

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8 Ways To Disconnect and Enjoy a Real Break

Jun 29, 2021

Want to really enjoy your summer vacation?

So many of us are ready for a real break! It’s been a year of going full-tilt, figuring out work and family competing priorities while trying to navigate the uncertainty.

You’re likely feeling tapped out from juggling it all.

And, dreaming of vacation days, some downtime and fun with your family, and the joy of simply disconnecting from your usual daily responsibilities.

If so, your mind and body are giving you signs that it’s time for a break.

I know this because I have heard it from so many people and I feel it myself.

You also might feel overwhelmed by the idea of stepping away from the office for a week or two because the work will pile up while you are away.

Or think that it would be a great idea to take a couple of your planned vacation days to actually get work done without any distractions or people to interrupt you.

Or some big new project popped up, or a resource left and you no longer think it’s...

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You Are Already Doing Enough

Jun 16, 2021

If you’re like most people, you end the day or the week feeling like you didn’t do enough. 

You might have the best of intentions when you start your day or week, but you end up getting side-tracked with last-minute issues and other people’s requests.

Deadlines get delayed, piling up the work.

And, you feel overwhelmed and find yourself unable to focus when you actually do have a window of time that is not tied up in meetings.

You tell yourself that if you just had a few more hours, you could get caught up, even though your to-do list is a mile-long and likely unreasonable to begin with!

So when you end your day feeling like you didn’t do enough you are fighting a battle that you will never win!

I know because I used to feel this way every single day. That inner critic still pops in my head at times saying “you should have done more”, “you could have done more” “I wish I had done more”.

What’s different now is I...
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How An Out-Of-Control Inbox Could Lead To Success

May 06, 2021

People are often surprised to discover that I am “terrible” at organizing my email inbox. In any given mailbox, I might have more than 15,000 unread emails . . .

. . . even though managing your email effectively to achieve “inbox zero” is a tried-and-true time management tactic.

You see, even back in my corporate career, I recognized that I simply did not have the desire to organize my inbox and that it often became a rabbit hole that would suck up my time.

I also had a demanding position with hundreds of emails a day, so I needed to be strategic in responding to what mattered most (and ignoring the rest) to still BE effective.

After many years of feeling like I was “failing” at my email management, I realized that it was working for ME. And, what works for one person might be different from another.

That led to the bigger realization that . . .

You need to have the right mindset FIRST and be crystal clear on who you are and how you can operate in...

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Focus On The "Yes" Instead Of The "No"

Apr 21, 2021

My kids have their own style, especially my soon-to-be teenager Carter. He has worn shorts every day since 2018, doesn’t own a pair of pants and loves plain crewneck t-shirts.

So when we get invited for a family photo shoot for a wedding or other occasion, I often hear "Can you dress your kids better?"

My typical response has been "no" because we let our kids make these decisions and choose their own sense of style.

Sure, I will at least encourage them to pick something not stained or ripped but I won’t force them to dress a certain way to please people.

Recently, I received a frustrated text response from a family member saying that this is just an example where I don't care about other people and only think about myself . . . because I wasn't willing to make the kids "dress up" for a photo shoot.

Carter happened to see the text and told me: "Mom, you do care about other people – you care about me and what I want".

Remember, when you say "no" to something...

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Balance Is Not BS

Apr 07, 2021

Back in my corporate project management days, it would be frustrating when we would do an overhaul of a process, but the revolutionary new approach often ended up being similar to the old thing, just with a different name.

There would be the same underlying issues and pain points. We wouldn’t truly achieve the desired change and then a couple of years later we would re-brand it again.

Because we were often changing things at a surface level, but not really getting to the heart of what was not working in the first place, especially with people.

This is what balance is like in my mind. 

People, especially now, are waking up to the fact that their well-being, time, and boundaries are urgent and important. 

When you feel like you're drowning in everything to do and you can never seem to find the time to reset and recharge. Or you find that it’s impossible to stop thinking about work or stop working in the evenings to catch up after the kids are in bed.

Or when you...

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